Student sample for assessment
Written by a Year 8 student in Perth, Western Australia, Australia.
My group has five people: myself, Maya, Kai, Liam and Sophie. We communicate through a group chat and in person. The group chat is how we plan things. When someone suggests an idea—'let's go to the arcade'—the chat fills up. People agree or disagree. Mostly they react with emojis if they like the idea, or they go quiet. Going quiet in the chat means no. We have learned what no means without anyone saying it directly. No one says 'I don't want to go'. They just don't respond, and everyone knows what that means. We meet at lunch or on weekends. When we meet, we decide things in person. The decision is usually made by whoever speaks first and loudest. This isn't fair, but it's how it works. I'm not the loudest, so if I have an idea, I often don't say it. Kai is the loudest. Kai suggests something—'let's watch this film'—and everyone goes along with it, even if they don't really want to. If someone disagrees after Kai speaks, they usually don't say it out loud. They might text the group later saying they couldn't make it. That happens sometimes. So Kai's ideas usually win because Kai is the loudest. When someone disagrees or is upset about a decision, it is hard. Last month Sophie was upset because Maya had made plans with Kai without including the rest of us. Sophie didn't say anything to Maya directly. Instead she texted the group saying she thought it was unfair. Then everyone had to pick a side. That's usually how conflict happens in my group. It doesn't happen in person. It happens in text, and then everyone worries. After Sophie texted, nobody felt comfortable for a week. Eventually someone—I forget who—sent a meme and that kind of started things back to normal, but it was uncomfortable for a while. That's just how my group works. Things aren't resolved. They just get uncomfortable and then fade out when people move on to something else. My group is close, but we don't actually talk about anything real. We text about plans and jokes, but if someone had a real problem, I don't think they would tell the group. I think they would tell one person. That's different from being a real friend group. But that's how we work. We are very comfortable together, but maybe not in the way the word 'friend group' usually means.